Straight from the heart - 08

This letter is a repost of a strawberry letter from the steve harvey morning show.

Date: 01/16/2008
Subject: Do I stay for the finances and the kids?

Good Morning...S.H. Morning Show, I am married woman in my late 30's. I have been married for 15 years with three beautiful children. My husband and I have been together since we were in high school. Our marriage for the most part has been DRAMA free. We have had the average issues of a young couple growing up together into adulthood while raising a young family. I considered my husband my best friend. The last couple of years my husband has had his hands in several different ventures to better our financial status. I have allowed my husband full reign over our finances and supported him so that he could better our financial situation. Now my husband has always made more money than me. It has never been an issue for us. But now that he has bought some real estate property...etc. He has become a little cocky. I have been bringing it to his attention that he has started discarding my opinion in our financial decisions and had started treating me like one of our kids. It seems that he is short with me and snaps at me like the kids. It's like he forgot that I am his counterpart and how supportive I was as he raised us to the top. In my frustration I made a really bad choice. I turned to another man, who seemed to appreciate me. He is a single divorced older man that has enjoyed his bachelor life fully over those past years. He shared with me how he has played the field to the fullest. He is now looking for a wife. I think he is fascinated with me because my mindset as a wife to let my man lead while I support him. This guy feels I can make him be a better man. This guy does make me feel like I am greatest thing that has ever happened to him. While my husband makes me feel that any failure in his life was because we married young and he didn't fulfill his destiny. This situation turned so ugly that I asked my husband to move out, and he did. This older guy is not as financial disciplined as my husband. The problem is that I have become accustom to living a certain way. My husband forgave me for the affair, and has changed since he realized someone else wanted me. He claims he realized he really does love me, took me for granted. I have my guards up because I gave him my all and he didn't appreciate it. I feel like he thinks it's cheaper to keep me. I let him move back in, and I thought that I could forget about the other man. I still love my husband, but I am not in love with him anymore. I prayed on it and ask God to remove the other man from my heart. It worked for a short time, but I seem to be right back at the same cross roads. The other man has made it clear that he want me as his wife and that he will do the best he can to take care of me. My issue is that I have been married since I was 23 years old and I don't know if I want to turn around and marry this man, although I have no desire to date anyone else. But I can't afford to be on my own and live the way I have been accustomed to living. What if I am making a grave mistake and lose my husband in the process? Should I stay with my husband even though he doesn't make my heart flutter anymore? Should I take a chance with this other man, even though I will have to start all over and might have to struggle with him? Plus my kids could be devastated by the whole situation. Do I stay for the finances and the kids? Confused