Straight from the heart - 05

This letter is a repost of a strawberry letter from the steve harvey morning show.

Date: 01/09/2008
Subject: I'm in love with a Gringo

Hi- First of all, thank you all for helping me start my work day with a big smile. I'm in love with a gringo, I was born and raised in Ecuador and moved to Miami when I was 19 years old. I'm now 28. I have worked hard for the things I have, I learned English, maintained myself without my parent's help, made it to the top of my career, and I made excellent new friends. My boyfriend is 36 years old and was married for almost 10 years and his wife divorced him 6 years ago. When I met him I also met his two best friends, one of which he has known since they were 13 yrs. old. I've seeing how much respect they have for him as well as his co-workers and boss. When my boyfriend asked me to move in with him after 2 months of knowing each other I spoke with him about the things that are important to me and him since we have both had serious relationships that lasted more than 6 years and we are at the right age to know what we want out of life. We spoke about mutual incomes, dreams, and aspirations. I told him that I want to be married before I'm thirty and he was ok with it. Also, I told him I wanted to start a family and he said to me that he was not a in a hurry to have babies, but he was at the right age and happy with me so he was ok with the idea. We live together with our two female cats. We are happy and have a simple life that we enjoy. Our two year anniversary past last June so I spoke with him about marriage and he told me that we would not marry again, at least not now. I felt crushed, but he insists that this has nothing to do with me. I love him so much that if I was given the option to make all his dreams come true at the cost of me never seeing him again, I would take it just to know that he is 100% happy. Our friends tell me that I'm the best girlfriend ever and that I deserve the best. However, they know my boyfriend does not want to marry and they advised me to move on if I insist in marrying him. As a Latin girl I want marriage before babies, even though I'm not a traditional person and I don't have a religion. I do have a problem with lack of patience so I'm writing to know what the Code Cracker thinks about this. Should I wait or is this a red flag I should pay attention to?