Straight from the heart - 06

This letter is a repost of a strawberry letter from the steve harvey morning show.

Date: 01/10/2008
Subject: My Big Day

Hi Steve and the Morning Show Crew. I am getting married for the first time (at the age 42)this year in May. My "dear" friends, who have known me for more than 13 years, have always known that I wanted a meaningful relationship that would lead to marriage. I am just the one-man woman type. I met a wonderful man whose heart is made of gold, he loves me unconditionally, he is so comical, he is just a ball to be with. When I announced our marriage plans, one of my friends, who happens to be single, said "he is a good guy and he truly loves you" and am really happy for you. I asked this same friend to be a bridesmaid in my wedding and she declined, because she is currently upset with someone else (my family member) who is in the wedding party. Something happened in September between them that caused them not to speak to each other. I gave my fiance a surprise birthday party in October and invited them all, and they all came. They were civil toward each other, they basically separated themselves, didn't necessarily mingle with each other but they showed up and celebrated his birthday with him. Things went so well, I actually forgot that they were mad with each other. Here it is my one and only wedding day, and I asked them to be in my wedding and they declined. I am really hurt about this. My fiance is very upset because he can not believe that "my girls" can not put their differences aside for such an important day to me. Planning my wedding has not been a happy event for me, and I blame that on my family and friends. My friends and family has added nothing but drama to the planning of my wedding ever since we set the date. My fiance said that he has some "choice" words he would like to say to them. Believe me when I say, he would never disrespect them, but he said he is going to give them a piece of his mind. He said he will wait until after the wedding, because what he has to say will be well deserved based on what they do for "my day". He did however tell me, just be warned, they may take it with love or they may never speak to us again. He can not believe these girls have been my dear "friends" for 13 years. Please note I keep using the term "dear" friends because, I have know these ladies for 13 years, one is the godmother of my son, we celebrate and exchange gifts with each every year on our birthdays and christmas. We hang out constantly with each other. How can they do this to me? They have been a part of everything else in my life except my Big Day. That doesn't make sense to me. I want to know what your listners think about this situation and hopefully my friends will hear the topic and realize I'm talking about them and get it together. You could not stop me from being in their wedding if they wanted me in it.